Him.

Let’s start with the idea that I only have an understanding of this subject from my years in the sex industry so it is from my personal viewpoint and experience.  This comes from a heartfelt desire to help my fellow humans develop a deep sexual connection.

I don’t know if I have touched on this before but I often have older men arrive feeling shame and embarrassment regarding their ED.  It appears that prostate cancer is a huge contributor in regard to this issue.  Often clients are left buying sex toys to try and improve the situation.

One of my dear guests has even gone so far as to create his own penis pump! It is fiddly and while the cock may swell – the raging hard on is still a distant memory.  This is what has made me ponder deeply on the subject.  I really do hope you are not offended by what I am about to reveal.  Yikes.

Alrighty.  Here goes.

Your hard cock has as much to do with my orgasm as your eyebrow does.  Whether your cock is harder than a rock or as soft as a noodle – neither matters to me in the least.  I simply do not care about your hard cock as it pertains to my sexual enjoyment.

Wait! What?

This is when it suddenly hit me like a tonne of bricks.  You are focused on the wrong thing.  Absolutely and completely.

While I might not be the same as your lover, your wife, your partner simply because I can gush without touching myself – we do have something in common.  We have spent many an encounter focused not on our orgasm but on yours.  For some reason women aren’t taught that they should experience an explosion of sexual chemistry.  Nope.  Our job has always felt like a one sided affair when it comes to sex.

I can already sense your frown.  But wait, there’s more.

Women – we are the Madonna or we are the Whore but the truth is we are both.  While it might be true that I am a whore – trust me – if money were not involved you would most likely never get to experience my sexual desire.  Nor would you want to.  I get it.  I am not your one true love.  Or your second.

Women are not expected to gush with excitement – in fact, I am a bit of an anomaly I suppose.  It has taken a lot of time, fabulous lovers and most importantly it has taken my discovering my own sexual energy.  It’s been a trip.  Man.

So.  Now we get to the gnarly part of this post.  I put myself in my guests position.  What if I could not get hard? What if my penis were tiny? This could leave me as it does my guests feeling worthless but instead I would be the best fucking lover on the planet! That would be my goal.  I would focus ONLY on their orgasm.

I was talking to a girlfriend about this very subject recently to get her perspective on what I am trying to say about this subject and she got it! Oh yes, immediately she recalled her best lover as a man who learned her body inside and out.  The way he could play her like a fiddle took her to the moon and back.

I know when I focus only on his orgasm I am offering him something important.  The giving is key to this … giving without thinking of receiving is pivotal.

Just my 02 cents on a Sunday afternoon.  I would love to hear your thoughts if you have any pertaining to this post.  We are all just learning … xx