Do Not Respond.

In an ideal world we wouldn’t lie, not even to ourselves.  We would dance through this lifetime enjoying everything.  We would experience everything our heart longs for.  And why not? I firmly believe it is the reason we chose to come to Earth … pleasure.

So it came to pass that I met a man who had so much pent-up passion curled up like a sleeping tiger.  His world was the colour of grey for long ago his life partner had decided enough – was enough.  For her.  I don’t understand why we have all blindly accepted this … bullshit.

Dear reader – you may have read how remiss I was in my own marriage when it came to sex so please forgive my hypocrisy but I am awake now … everything has changed.  My wants, needs, desires … they are mine now.  When I hear from my guests that their marriage is grey I feel honoured to remind them that there is colour in the world.

You can imagine the horror I felt when I read his last text informing me that his wife had read the message exchange we’d had.  The regret he felt at having hurt his wife was palpable.  I get it.  Not one of us wishes harm to any other … but.  Is he to just suffer in silence?

Many is the man I have come to know in this same position.  I come at it from such a different perspective.  When did we decide that another human being should control what we do, say, think, feel? Why would I want to stop anyone from doing anything? Experience it all.  Fuck it.  I would love to talk to the women in these relationships.

If I could talk to this guests wife (who, he says may call me) I would tell her that her husband was sweet, kind, sexy, genuine and fucking desperate for some physical intimacy.  Lordy be, is it too much to ask for? He had nothing but sweet kind words when speaking of his love.  He misses her.  He wouldn’t be in my bed at all if he had anything to do with it.  But.  What this man must not do is starve himself.

If I were ever to have another relationship I would hope it strong and honest – I would hope that if we both waned at the same time we could talk about it because at the very least we would be friends.  For those of you who fear being caught being human … here is a tutorial that might save the stress.

I have my phone on silent most of the time and will only send a text response but if you would rather me not send anything all you need do is send DNR which tells me not to respond.  Easy really.  xx