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I will do my best to convey my thoughts on the subject of female sexuality but please remember that I really know nothing much at all other than what I have experienced.  I understand my perspective may be a little different to other women.  I am going to talk about it anyway.  It is important.

The subject is far too vast for a simple blog post but we have to start somewhere, right?

Most women don’t orgasm.  Despite what you might imagine or the books you have read or the porn you have watched – most women don’t orgasm.  Most women are not in touch with their sexuality because most women are not in touch with their bodies.  A pretty bold statement right there and I am sure someone way smarter than me could easily disagree with me but here I go regardless …

Not every woman’s experience will mimic mine exactly but I am sure every women might find herself nodding in agreement nevertheless.  I did not know women were meant to enjoy sex.  Imagine! I thought we were to make noises, oooh and ahhh and yes baby and all that bullshit just to make a man orgasm.  I thought it was about him.  It was never about me.  I was 30 years old before I realised I could not only orgasm but I could gush and I needn’t ever stop.  I could orgasm until the cows came home, made a cuppa and went back out to the field again.

You cannot imagine the sexual freedom I felt when this discovery was made.  Once I knew it was possible it became my life’s work to understand it.  I wanted that feeling all the time.  Every time.  And that of course is where the problem is between men and women.

Even if women were in touch with themselves – once a man orgasms they lose the desire to continue so women are left … wanting.  We know it is possible to orgasm, we want to gush and dear dog almighty we want to lose control.  But.  We deny ourselves.  Instead we focus on his orgasm.  And then he cums and then it is over.  We learn managed expectations.

Does that make sense? What is the point to all of this if both parties are not laying in a sweat and cum and panting from exhaustion? We both miss out.  I reckon I am on to something.  I am still pondering.  Let me know if you have any thoughts to share please.  xx